Anxieties fears phobias

ANXIETIES, FEARS & PHOBIAS

 

Fear is one of the most basic of human emotions, it helps to protect us. Fear like all other emotions can range from very mild to extremely intense. A phobia is an irrational or an excessive fear of an object or a situation, leading at times to anxiety, and stress, thus limiting our full enjoyment of life

 

Is Fear a normal response?

The normal response to a real or perceived danger is fear, it’s the mechanism our bodies and minds use to protect us from danger. Without fear we would not have made it made it out of the cave. When we feel fear our bodies produce adrenalin, our heart rate increases, we become much more alert and we are prepared to deal with whatever danger exists.

 

When is Fear a Problem?

Fear is only a problem if it becomes irrational, and this can be caused by many things. A phobia can be aptly described as an extreme reaction to fear, caused by exposure to something that would under normal conditions be easily dealt with. Phobias are very common, specific phobias such as “Fear of heights, lifts, flying, animals, insects, closed spaces, open spaces, dark spaces, blood and dentistry” are some of the most common.

 

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Are there other Phobias?

There are numerous other phobias, all of which to the sufferer are life limiting, as a result situations where the sufferer may come into contact with their particular phobia are avoided or endured with absolute dread. Some of the symptoms are palpitations, sweating, feeling faint, losing control, and in extreme cases fear of dying.

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Are we born with Phobias?

When we are born we have no phobias, as newborns our fears are reflexive. Instinctively babies become fearful with unexpected loud noises, also sudden loss of support “the sensation of falling” are the two that are pre programmed. Fear in children is consistently changing as they grow older, with specific fears at different ages. Many of these fears disappear as the child grows older. With increased maturity and experience children work out for themselves earlier fears are no longer threatening and as a result previous fears do not provoke the same response.

How do we begin to deal with the problem?

Before we can deal with any problem we must understand what the problem is, where it originated from, and what the best and most effective way to deal with it is. When we consider how our mind works we need to know that our subconscious mind does not know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Our conscious mind may know that air travel is one of the safest ways to travel, yet the mere thought of air travel can send some people into panic. If for some reason our subconscious mind can only see danger in air travel, we need to persuade it that this is not a reasonable or logical conclusion. Unfortunately reason and logic are not in the makeup of our subconscious mind.

What else can you tell me about our Subconscious mind?

Our subconscious mind is protective its where our feelings/emotions, habits, beliefs, and long term memory are. The protective part of our subconscious mind generates fear when it perceives danger. This is a very important function as it helps to protect us. Sometimes it can be mistaken and generate fear even though there is no real danger. So air travel may be one of the safest ways to travel, yet it can become almost impossible for some people to board an aeroplane. The good news is that our subconscious mind is programmable, if there are misconceptions, if our subconscious mind has erred, this can be changed. Up to the age of six or seven we learn at an extreme rate from our parents or whoever is bringing us up. The Jesuits have a saying ‘give me the child till he is seven and I will give you the man’.

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How does this impact our life experiences?

All of our experiences from the day we are born and some say even before that, are stored on the hard drive of our subconscious. All of our experiences good bad and indifferent are there. So if we are taught from an early age to respect our fellow human beings that is what will comes naturally, if someone tells us that we are stupid or lazy this also goes on the hard drive, and depending on how often it is reinforced could dictate how we behave as adults.

After the age of six or seven, our critical factor begins to grow, things like our mother kissing a bruised knee to make it better, and Santa coming down the chimney, start to take on their true meanings. All of our childhood experiences are there, and if something happens in our subsequent development, such as a bad flight, being blamed in the wrong, or a traumatic experience this tends to reinforce any negative emotions that have been planted there, and it is then we run the risk of developing irrational fears and phobias. 

There are many triggers which can instigate the start of an irrational fear or phobia, stress is a very common one, also tiredness and trauma are up there too. If our mother had a fear of mice, it is possible that we will inherit the same. Any trauma which affects us whether it’s personal, local, or remote, our subconscious mind could relate this back to something which we have forgotten, or blocked. When we are tired or rundown, something which we would cope with ease can become a mountain to climb. 

Our conscious mind may know that whatever is causing our fear or phobia is something we should be able to deal with easily and effortlessly, but our subconscious mind which is where our long-term memory lives has other ideas. Our subconscious mind is very powerful; ask anyone who has suffered from agoraphobia. This particular phobia is the strongest prison in the world, and not a single lock or key is needed. Fortunately, we don’t have easy access to our subconscious mind; our subconscious mind does not like change. 

It is very set in its way; this mostly is to our advantage. Imagine if our subconscious mind was fickle, all of the actions that we consider automatic such as stopping at red traffic lights, driving on the correct side of the road, to the most simplest of chores like tying our shoelaces, making a cup of coffee, opening a door. These are things that we consider automatic; in fact, it’s our subconscious mind that looks after all of these tasks. 

How does this impact our life

Our conscious mind may know that whatever is causing our fear or phobia is something we should be able to deal with easily and effortlessly, but our subconscious mind which is where our long-term memory lives has other ideas. Our subconscious mind is very powerful; ask anyone who has suffered from agoraphobia. This particular phobia is the strongest prison in the world, and not a single lock or key is needed. Fortunately, we don’t have easy access to our subconscious mind; our subconscious mind does not like change. 

It is very set in its way; this mostly is to our advantage. Imagine if our subconscious mind was fickle, all of the actions that we consider automatic such as stopping at red traffic lights, driving on the correct side of the road, to the most simplest of chores like tying our shoelaces, making a cup of coffee, opening a door. These are things that we consider automatic; in fact, it’s our subconscious mind that looks after all of these tasks. 

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Can our conscious mind influence the subconscious mind?

Our conscious mind has no real influence on our subconscious mind, therefore if an irrational fear or phobia is present there is no point trying to alter the situation with our conscious mind. Our conscious mind is where our short term memory, logic, willpower, and judgement reside, none of which can have any lasting effect on our subconscious mind.

Imagine if you had a phobia of dark places, you could try familiarization and maybe get some short term results, you could try talking therapies, again maybe getting some short term results. The only way to completely remove the irrational fear is to remove the cause, and as this lies in our subconscious mind we must gain access to it.

 

What is the most effective tool to use for lasting change?

The most successful and proven method of making real and lasting changes to our subconscious mind is through hypnosis. Imagine walking into a room and being handed a pen to take a door off its hinges, I’m sure this would prove most difficult, imagine being handed a screwdriver for the same job, easy and effortless is the phrase that springs to mind. 

So just like making long term changes, such as removing phobias from your subconscious mind, the right tools are essential if we are to expect real and lasting results.